### Discover Essential Skills to Help an Angry Child Master Emotional Regulation for a More Harmonious Home
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**Yelling. Stomping. Slamming. Crashing.**
Raising a child with intense emotions who lacks coping mechanisms can lead to unpredictability, ups and downs, and a chaotic household. It’s common for parents to visit my therapy office feeling drained and unsure of how to handle these frequent challenges.
“It feels like we’re never at peace at home. He can’t get along with his sister, and his outbursts put the whole family on edge. I’ve tried everything—timeouts, taking away privileges—nothing seems to work!”
So, what’s the best approach to help an angry child manage their emotions?
Loud sounds and disruptive behavior can trigger our own emotions, whether we realize it or not, and disrupt the parenting goals we have in mind.
**What’s the key to staying strong for your highly emotional child while maintaining your sanity? Focus on yourself.**
Suggesting that parents reflect on their internal states during their child’s meltdowns is not always a welcomed idea. Our parenting culture tends to focus outwardly—on the child and their behavior. While it’s helpful to observe behaviors to understand the needs behind them, the quickest way to restore peace at home is to first sort out your own emotions.
Your child, despite their intense temperament, looks to you as the tone-setter for your family’s environment. They are acutely aware of your energy and often mimic your actions (no pressure!).
Although self-reflection and emotional management take time, here are some simple questions to guide you:
**Reflect on your reactions and behaviors when your child is struggling.**
Your emotionally intense child will face many ups and downs, and during their early years, as they’re learning to regulate their emotions, they need you to be their steady guide. Staying calm and confident as you demonstrate your own emotional management is crucial.
Your deeply rooted emotions might be triggering you, connected perhaps to childhood experiences or ingrained beliefs. For instance:
– “I must stop this now, or I’m saying this behavior is okay.”
– “My child should control himself!”
– “People will think I’m a bad parent if they see this tantrum.”
– “If she acts like this, she won’t have friends.”
By separating your story from your child’s, you can better support their needs and remain calm and supportive.
Planning ahead for challenging parenting moments can greatly assist you when your brain’s stress center is overwhelmed (yes, just like what happens in your child’s brain during a meltdown).
Remember, being human means sometimes you’ll struggle with stress and an overly active amygdala. Negative thoughts aren’t your ally in being a strong, steady parent for an intense child. Practice self-compassion, and focus on reconnecting with your child afterward.
Within a few weeks of reflection and planning, parents often return feeling empowered and confident. They’ve realized the key to helping an angry child is by shifting the focus inward and taking responsibility for their own behaviors, instead of just trying to control their child.
Focusing inward is the first step toward a more peaceful home.
As Mahatma Gandhi wisely said, “Start changing yourself if you want to change the life around you.”
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